What advice to you have for someone that has just lost their child?
It’s okay to feel angry, sad, numb or any which way u feel because you just lost your child and this will be the hardest thing you will ever experience. Cry when you want, do what makes your grieving easier.
What if anything helped you through the grief journey?
I visit her grave site once a week or at least every other week because I feel like I’m still taking care of her. As a mom we have that instinct to care for our children and that’s my way of doing so and it helps my grieving. My husband and children have helped me keep it together, for them I remain strong and they keep me from falling apart.
Any suggestions on how to get through the anniversary of the passing of your child or how to celebrate their birthdays even though they are not here?
Well for us her birthday is real tough. My oldest Valerie and her share birthdays. I go and decorate her grave and sing happy birthday. Her birthday is way too tough for me. On her passing anniversary it’s also very hard like it would be for all of us; but, my wedding anniversary is 3days after and being Christmas month we just try make the best of it and remind ourselves that we still have each other and that God has blessed us with three healthy children.
Is there a song, book or poem that spoke to you after their passing?
Julie recommended reading “Heaven Is For Real” (http://heavenisforreal.net/). It is an awesome book, please read it. It helped me so much!!
What is your Angel’s name, how old where they when they passed, and how long have they been in heaven?
My angel’s name is Vanessa Ilene Vasquez she was 5 months 25 days. She’s been our precious angel for 2 years.